My name is Denise Sinclair I am 40 years old. I have been working as a carer for about six years now but have been caring for my own mother since 1999. She fell down the stairs and ended up in a coma.
When she woke she thought she was 18 and didn’t remember having any kids. It was the hardest time of my life but we got on with it. With time she remembered us. After a year in hospital they told us she could not be rehabilitated and would have to go into a nursing home.
They said we were too young to look after her needs properly. It was very upsetting to visit her there as she would scream at us to take her home every time we went to visit. She had always made us swear we would not put her in a home when we were kids. So in the end we decided to take her home once we informed them we were told if we did we would be on our own.
But we did just that and I gave up work to care for her. As the years went on she had two mini strokes and one major stroke then Dementia set in. I was finding life hard as I have always worked and needed a life outside the home.
We paid a girl close to us to care for mum so I could go back to work. The HSE also gave us home help so mum was well looked after. I started looking for work and it was only natural for me to look for work as a carer as I understood first-hand how important it is for the family to have help with their loved ones. To know your parent has someone coming every day that they like is a relief.